Today we, close out our month of Lessons In Love, a few have been about marriage, so we have to talk about the differences in men and women. Aside from the obvious, there are even more differences but God really created woman to help the man and the woman so the man would not be left alone. Some though, you do need to leave alone, and we know what they can get into trouble without us, right? All kidding aside, God had and still has the perfect plan for couples, man and woman.
God is male, the strong and loving father, but He had love and compassion like a mother, so He created male and female. He created the ideal couple in the garden, but they had free will as we all do and allowed their perfect world to fall. It took a long time for God to send Jesus, but He knew the right time. Again, He was rejected and had to die, but He gave His life so that we might live eternally with Him, He came for the Jews and then offered eternal life to the Gentiles.
While there were many customs and styles of the times, and women were often treated like property, and were concubines and slaves. Jesus changed a lot of that. A lot of women have trouble with submission, it doesn’t mean what you think, it is like being on the same mission or page. In essence, being together, when the two become one, and while you may not agree on everything, your home does not have to be a battlefield. It goes back to perception and deception, and how we perceive each other, what we think the problem is may not be it at all.
Men like strong women to an extent but can perceive them wrongly and some are intimidated, and the silly, babyish, women are not the type of wives for Christian men to me, I read a story about a flirt who was finally told she was the mistress type, it hurt her but she had perpetuated that image. Still, we want men to respect and care for us as women and equal. God knows who and what you are, but He is not looking at us the same way we do.
Men should never perceive women as weaker in the sense that they can not be strong in the Lord. But they are to be sensitive to the Spirit and perceive their roles as a husband and father and not be swayed into some tyrannical man that dominates his wife and family, that is not God’s way, He is firm and loving, protective of women and daughters, giving them the idea of what love and family is like in God’s kingdom. Women are help mates and daughters should have good example of love to follow. Or they will choose the wrong man.
Jesus went out of His way for women, He freed them. While He pointed out their sins, He drew them, like the water from the well. He was not condemning. He was sitting at Peter’s house with a child on His knee when asked about divorce. He gave the reason to be infidelity. But I know there has been forgiveness and reconciliation, and other times He has made a way for the woman to leave. He hates abuse.
As for women being fairer, they are, look at Rebekah at the well, they do like clothes and makeup, perfumes, and we know men like the sports and fishing, golf. They can sit around in a dirty shirt, many have no idea how to turn on a washer. Men need women and they need men. As examples of Christ’s love, security, guidance and protection. Not just to work for them, or just to clean house or have children, but to love like Jesus does.
I once wrote about suicide and a girl from the military was included, when a man commented and said that women shouldn’t be in the military, I think I surprised him by agreeing. Most women probably should not but there are exceptions. Women are strong in ways men are not, but sensitive also in ways men are not, but Christian men should be, and to the Spirit, to their wives. Men are naturally and physically stronger, but the Proverbs describes wisdom as a woman, and I am not saying that men are not wise, they may not always use wisdom though. Think I’m wrong? Look at the judges, Deborah and Samson.
What we fail to recognize is that God looks at hearts. In Christ, you are neither Jew or Gentile, and really not male and female, of course, He knows what you are but that is not what determines your walk with Him. Men are strong and so are women. Women are loving and so are men. Men should never be afraid to show that sensitive side to their wives or to cry, to pour their hearts out to God in prayer with her.
Men should treat women with respect, and as unto a weaker vessel as the Lord says, like a fine china figurine or crystal vase. But don’t underestimate them or Him. I grew up in a time when women were not allowed in ministry, other than the nursery or teaching Sunday school, there is still lot of that mindset around. While women remained quiet in the temple as was the custom it was because they did not sit with their husbands and were not to talk or ask questions. Paul sent out couples to minister. And ladies, brag on him, and even more on Jesus, pray for your husband and for wisdom in marriage.
I like to have the door opened for me, groceries carried and being treated like a woman. I had an older man call me ” little lady ” the other day, but please don’t call me ” baby “. Women call me honey. That’s okay, I want to be sweet even if I can be annoying at times. See what I mean? While women were working so hard to be equal or have freedom, Jesus had already provided that. You can be strong and feminine, strong and masculine and both should have the tender heart of Christ.
Are women fairer and weaker, yes, we are. But we are strong in the Lord, and wise enough to let Him help our marriages. What do we really want to perceive, how about what Jesus does? How does He perceive us? I have enjoyed the # Write 28 days and I hope you have, thanks, ladies God bless, please visit me on FB or Pinterest…as we March Into His Rest.
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