Help, I’m a mother! Although I have no children, I have worked with plenty, many were like my own. Some, I was glad to see them go home. I’m just being honest. I have been blessed to have raised puppies, even kittens that were put up for adoption, And now I have new babies, three little cardinals in my roses.
I watch them every evening and had to write a post like this. That cute little couple, they are young birds, feathered that nest, and mama laid three pretty little eggs, I think they must have hatched on subsequent days, one day they were eggs and I didn’t check the next night, and then I had two babies and couldn’t see number three until the next day. Admittedly, I need to read up on the subject.
One night they were sleeping like three sweet little triplets, side by side. Another night they were sprawled all over the bottom of the nest. And still another, they were on their little bird bellies and wings folded behind them like tiny cherub wings. I wish I could get the pictures of these memories, but they don’t cooperate like real children, if you disturb them, they want to eat, little balls of down and beaks will open their mouths waiting for their bug stew.
At a little over a week old, their eyes are open. Puppies open their eyes at about two weeks. Isn’t it wonderful that real mothers, or women, I should say, can look right into the eyes of their babies? Wrinkly, pink and splotchy, sometimes crusty with cradle cap, they count fingers and toes, and draw them right to their hearts, soft spot and all.
I know women who have had children with different fathers, and not married. I have seen teen pregnancies, tried to talk to girls before they became pregnant. I knew women with careers get messed up and had children they could handle, one was so desperate, sobbing. I told her the Lord forgave her mistake, not he baby, the sin, and my mother helped her. Her little boy stop screaming so much. But she was still a parent, her parents in another state, raised a Christian, she was now a parent with a boyfriend with another girlfriend and he was not of her faith. It was a consequence, she would deal with. Another woman had a little boy, needed surgery and her boyfriend never went to the hospital. When she was better, she called the police and moved her stuff out. My heart hurts for women like this, they are beautiful, bright, some have careers and some don’t but where is love for them, don’t they know how much God cares?
I have even seen some women who did not appear as affected by miscarriage or the abuse of a boyfriend. I am convinced that we are in the days when people of any age, men of women are without natural affection. Not all but more than ever, there are too many cases of abuse, custodial kidnapping, horror stories that make the news, and I don’t care to repeat.
Rela mothers know love, even if they make the difficult choice to have their child adopted. I recently read of a woman who adopted the child of a college student who made that decision so she could return to school. She may have appeared to be selfish, but seeing the woman who has the child. I say she made the right choice and with love.
I know another woman who has taken in two, one had to be given methadone. But they are doing well, while the mother has had more children. We all have difficult decisions to make. The best one is to wait, feather your nest, have some education and a little nest egg, wait for the right person. Proverbs, as we are studying this month talks a lot about wayward women or prostitutes, luring men astray. And truly, they do.
Men also make promises, break them, and are sometimes, are just immature. Many times it will fall back on the mothers to help with the grandchild. Please know the Lord is not condemning, He forgives sins, He just had a plan for families, and it has been under attack. Women do not have to prostitute themselves for love, that isn’t it anyway. Girls and women need to know they are loved by God, and He forgives and never condemns and will make a way for babies, He has a place for them, and the right husband or wife, just wait, allow His love to fill you and wait. Simple enough.
Young mothers are often overwhelmed, diapers, dishes, they forget what sleep is. So if you know someone who needs a hand offer it, in love and wisdom, applaud her efforts, take the time to teach like a Titus woman. We could all learn a lesson from the little cardinal parents. He helps her feed the babies, he will even feed her so she can feed the babies, and birds are monogamous, and I hear them talk, I have learned to recognize their voices even from a distance, they communicate. he actually talks to her, and listens. He’s a pretty red bird with a beautiful singing voice, and she is the tan colored one with a burnt orange beak and a chirp, but they talk to each other and they understand each other. It is evident that they love each other and their little family.
Wouldn’t be nice if people could follow the plans God laid out for families, then the little ones would be safe, and secure. The little nest has withstood the wind and rain, a breeze was rocking it the other day, and the sun warms it. We all make our plans but guide our steps, another proverb. His plans are better if we can follow them, so listen, even if you find yourself saying, ” Help. I’m a mother! ”
How much better to get wisdom than gold and insight rather than silver. Proverbs 16:16, Parents really need wisdom, and my birds were flying off at eight days old.