The Mother’s Day post I put up earlier was for all types of mothers, grieving ones, exhausted ones and yes, hopeful ones. I have mothered a lot of children in daycare, now it looks as if foster care could be on the horizon, that is still a matter of prayer as I am still doing the prayer wall, the blogs, and ministering to as many as I can through them, I have been helping out with a couple.
Children are a gift from the Lord, a reward for love. However, it doesn’t always goes a planned. It works the same in the natural, but the physical is not always love, and children suffer. Nine months of planning, and pink or blue are too often overshadowed by drug use or abusive relationships.
It tears at the heart rather than tugs, tugging is seeing the little cuties laughing and happy, tasting bananas for the first time, discovering their toes, saying mama or da-da, snuggling with a blankie. Decorating nurseries, the baby showers, picking names. Gender reveals.
Tears, and tears that are shed in prayer, are more what has come my way recently, the blessing of miraculous babies, the sad passing of some that God must have just had to take for some reason. The abuse stories and neglect, the mothers who have chosen a life of partying and drugs over their own children, some on purpose, some out of their own painful past and not knowing or receiving God’s love.
In the last month, I have read about a woman with over 30+ negative pregnancy tests, one woman with a second miscarriage, thinking of adoption. Women suffering post partum, one with three under five years old. A young photographer, welcoming her fourth, ready to make him a model, as long as he is still. I know someone who adopted a girl from foster care at eighteen, and considers her completely her daughter and even now has a granddaughter. Isn’t that a wonderful attitude, her pain of infertility has been turned to joy. I have read of another woman who took in a baby who needed a major surgery. Of a little girl so neglected, and so starved, she has a feeding tube and wears a halo. These children are difficult to place.
I had to be re-fingerprinted, to be in contact with some of these children, like I said I have not actually completed the foster care program. I only help out. I read the papers, the list of children is disconcerting, Will you accept, cutters, pyromaniacs, runaways, thieves, some with gender identity problems, to name a few. That list was horrible, no wonder these children are hard to place. It takes the right person, the strong faith, the ability to hang in there, not judge be willing to step out in faith, to be firm, to pray powerful prayers and be determined not to let the devil have these souls. And we would definitely have to have breaks from these children. Honestly, I am not sure that I am that person, are you? I have no medical knowledge, either. Even stepping out to blog with my writing ability, was a leap of a faith, a wing and a prayer.
I suppose I am remembering talking to addicts when cocaine was more important thandeciding the children’s future. Their future still is in the hands of the Lord, they are covered in prayer. But then I guess, why not me? I taught children about Jesus for years, and i know I can let go because He goes with them.
I am praying for the children, adopted or not, in foster care or not and I hope you will join me. Admittedly, there are some I know that really need a group home or some kind of rehabilitation. But there are others, I know of that are thriving with love and attention and that firm and loving discipline, who are being taught faith and the love of Jesus. I just found out about two I know of who I never knew were adopted, and would never have known they went through drug withdrawals.
So, you see, if you are willing and able to put in the love and effort, God can match you with just the right child. There are even open adoptions. Some people are willing to give up parental rights, others should be, most would have to be dealt with through CPS, Child Protective Services, or DFACS as we know it, Department of Family and Child Services. I know some of these people I would not want to deal with, even though I know we are to forgive.
It is difficult to raise a child while the mother is addicted or in prison and then them show up and the court return them. I realize that it is the goal to reunite families, Jesus is the best one to do that, so it may take a willingness to let go, start over with a new child and remember, His eye is on that sparrow. I have counseled, even though I am not a counselor, either, two year olds and teens.
And those mothers who had abortions, I prayed they would realize that they didn’t know Jesus then. He is not punishing you, you are still capable. And should you not know, Him ask Him to forgive you and set His love on you. Forgive yourselves, that may be one of the reasons there is still so much abuse, no one breaks the cycle, or are not willing to forgive themselves and their parents, to let Jesus heal a broken heart. And then again there are those who think they can do no wrong, are not under the conviction of the Holy Spirit, who have trampled His mercy and grace. I know people who should be dead or in jail who walk around freely flaunting their freedom, expecting others to see them as they seen themselves, now God looks at the heart, He really knows and we too, by His Spirit can perceive, and know His plans for good.
Children are on His heart, and He has their best interest at heart. People think He allows things and He does because people abuse their free will. There are others to speak on behalf and help those who cannot make decisions or care for themselves.
So will you pray for me, for these bad ones, abused ones, violent ones, and even consider fostering or adoption of a child in need or with medical needs. Or at least support someone who does. Ask people at church. Start a prayer group for children. Or a M.O.P.S. group. Say, F.M.S., Feed My Sheep, FEMS, you get the idea. And these are just children here. What about abroad? We really should be praying.
What do you say when a little girl with burns says, ” Do you want me, no one ever wanted me. ” No one she be nobody’s child. They may not be saved yet, but He is calling them to His love, He will call them by name and they will be His and yours and mine. Rebecca Jones /stock photo / various translations
But God showed His great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. Romans 5:8
Since therefore the children share in flesh and blood, He. Himself likewise partook of the same things, that through death He might destroy the one who has the power of death, that is, the devil. Hebrews 2:14
So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when He adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:15
And whoever welcomes a little child like this in My name welcomes Me. Matthew 18:5
- My decision on this right now is to keep blogging and helping out as much as I can. I will see what happens after much needed summer break, though I will continue to post here.