Husbands Love Your Wives / Argument

Wives, understand and support your husbands by submitting to them in ways that honor the Master.

 Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them.

Children, do what your parents tell you. This delights the Master to no end.

 Parents, don’t come down too hard on your children or you’ll crush their spirits.

 Servant, do what you’re told by your earthly masters. And don’t just do the minimum that will get you by. Do your best. Work from the heart for your real Master, for God, confident that you’ll get paid in full when you come into your inheritance. Keep in mind always that the ultimate Master you’re serving is Christ. The sullen servant who does shoddy work will be held responsible. Being a follower of Jesus doesn’t cover up bad work. from Colossians 3:19

I put this in from the Message Bible. We have all heard the verse about husbands loving like Christ, for some reason, it has been taught that marriage is work, 50/50 and how different men and women are. Maybe, that is true to an extent, but believers should get the message. Putting God in your marriage, and seeing Him as the head of the husband, them wife and children, giving Him first place.

He gave more than 100%, and marriage to me, is equal, why not give 100% or more to your wife? Take time to listen to her. And she will be ready to reciprocate. Withholding the intimacy and the physical relationship, not speaking, so many things that are petty and picayune, can rob you of a healthy marriage and love life. An argument a day ( or more ) drives love away.

Being tired can, why women need help with housework and children. Just because the husband works does not excuse Him from taking care of the families spiritual needs. Men are naturally stronger, at least physically. And what man would not like a neck or foot massage? Most women have trouble with submission, but it means being on the same mission, Believers, should not be unequally yoked, when they are yoked to Christ. But often, they are. I have seen men who take this to the extreme, wives walking behind them and stair steps of children, following in a suit and a Bible in hand. But do they really know what it says?

I am not here to bash husbands or criticize, it is just that I have seen so much wrong in marriages. Men should think about Christ giving His life for their salvation, and be ready to lay down their lives for their wives, not necessarily literally but to keep the enemy and all the strife out of the home. Strife and division, allows in every ” evil ” work. James 3:6

I may get a lot of flack for this, but I believe that women were made to love and be loved and treated with care and respect. He made just Adam. God is male but has maternal love, He gave the man something He does not have, a wife, except spiritually, Israel. The same is true with Jesus and the church, He is the threefold cord and tie that binds in love, husbands and wife are one in Him. Although, that cord is primarily, the Trinity.

So you give up a bowling night or round of golf? You miss a shopping day or salon appointment. Spend time together. Not just a date night here and there, but taking time to talk and love everyday, even just the closeness or kind words. Children learn from examples.

Valentine’s Day is here again and one romantic night here and there is not enough to make a happy marriage. I think men and women should talk over things, make decisions together, be in agreement on parenting. I know not everyone’s life is perfect but He is and set aside heaven to come to earth to save us. Shouldn’t we respect that and include Him in marriages and family?

I know some people are not married to a believer, and that it can be difficult to get the spouse to understand but God is there to help, and really, even believers are not walking in the ideals of marriage God would have them to be. How many of us overlook a kind word or praise, or perhaps get angry and not always let it go. He is coming for a pure bride, it is time to take marriage seriously, for we are to attend the Marriage Supper, and the tables are ready, do we have our robes of righteousness, or are we being self righteous, are we holding on to our crowns or are they being taken away?

that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that He might present the church to Himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of His body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:25-33

It is Christ who sanctifies the wife and washes her with the Word, that He may present her to the Father for His glory. But the husband is to follow His example and the wife will respect him. He is really saying that if you don’t care for your wife God’s way, you don’t care about yourself.

You don’t have to show up for every argument, respond to every comment, even answer every question, you can just say yes and no, or that’s not my assignment, or even I’ll pray about it, the enemy with use anyone he can to get a response.

I hope husbands and wives will read these verses through again and study them, God’s way, and read other translations, I know women will get this and submit in ways that please God, let the little things go, don’t be nagging or brawling like the woman who tears down her house in Proverbs, things can easily escalate and get out of hand, but that is not the way of faith filled woman. And…..

Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. ! Corinthians 10:5, concerning casting down imaginations and thoughts.

Do not let anyone deceive you with false arguments. Colossians 2:4

Do everything without complaining and arguing. Phillipians 2:14

…warn them before God not to argue over words. Arguing does not do any good but only destroys those who are listening. 2 Timothy 2:14

And again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. 2 Timothy 2:23

God hates abuse, never stay in a dangerous or abusive situation. Please get help.

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